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The Work-Kids Dilemma

February 4, 2009 by Jini 4 Comments


I just finished reading through a bunch of Frank McKinney’s websites launching his 3 new books ( biz book, spiritual book, kids book). Then I watched his video compilation of all the tv shows he’s been on and his many successes in real estate. And I find myself wondering yet again: How do these people accomplish all this whilst raising children??

Now you can tell me all you want about working hard vs. working smart, and delegating. But here’s the thing: you’re preaching to the choir. I am the Queen of time management and outsourcing. And at the end of the day, there are only so many hours and so much energy available in that day.

So call me judgmental, but if you’re raising young children (before school babysits them for a nice 6 hour chunk each day) and accomplishing monumental work successes, then something is suffering – and it’s obviously not your work stuff.

I figure people who are seeming to “do it all” probably have very little downtime in their lives. And they’re cutting corners in their child-raising. Because my main business is natural health, I know how extremely important nutrition is. Both to the growth and development of a child and to the long-term health of all family members. So you tell me that “do it all” moms like Carrie Wilkerson are cooking organic, unprocessed food from scratch for their 4 children every single day. Have they breastfed each child for at least 1-2 years? Have they been there for the child at night, or have they let the child “cry it out” and gone to sleep themselves, thereby preserving their energy for the next day’s work?

Or, the other thing I suspect, is that these have-it-all powerhouses have a spouse who is completely dedicated to them and the children and that is the person who is putting in all the work on the home front. Or, their business was cemented and generating a high income before they had their kids. Because, as we all know, most of the work is in the set-up.

My husband and I each have our own business and we each parent our children and suffer sleep deprivation and a crushing work load from just meeting the children’s needs. And these needs range from the emotional to the spiritual to the physical. My husband volunteers at school to help kids learn to read, he coaches soccer, he drives for field trips, and he’s done all the nights and night feedings (I pumped the breastmilk into bottles) with our youngest.

I did the all the nights and nightfeedings with the first two. I did not sleep more than 3.5 hours in a row for three years. You tell me how you can do all that (whilst breastfeeding day and night) and simultaneously be hosting teleseminars, going to conferences, marketing consistently, coaching and doing speaking engagements? It’s simply not physically possible.

So I’m here to stand up and tell the truth: Yes, you can have it all. But not all at the same time.

it’s simply not physically possible to “have it all” when your kids are small. And personally, I’m getting a bit miffed at listening to all these people purport that they are doing and having it all and there’s something wrong with me that I’m not! So to all those “I’ve got it all: family, multi-million dollar business, spiritual growth and purpose, community involvement and charity” people. I have six questions for you:

  1. Do you parent your children yourself? Or does your spouse, daycare, nanny, etc. do it for you?
  2. Do you breastfeed each child for a minimum of one year, and preferably two?
  3. Do you prepare 3 meals a day of organic, unprocessed food, cooked from scratch?
  4. Are you available to nurture your children and show them compassion when they are upset or crying, day and night? Or do you leave them to cry it out on their own while you get your sleep?
  5. Do you spend time every day connecting with your children and teaching them the important things of life: spiritual, business, health and nutrition, etc.
  6. Are you doing some form of exercise every day (this could be with your kids – doesn’t have to be going to the gym on your own) to preserve your own health?

I would really like to hear from anyone who really and truly is doing/having it all whilst raising young children, so they can explain to me how it is physically possible.

In my experience, all you can do is your best. And that’s really going to vary depending on your personal energy levels, work habits, functionality, etc. It’s also going to depend on whether your work is “work” or something you love, that provides you with a break, stimulation and enjoyment. If it’s the latter, then obviously, you’re going to get a lot more done in your business. Because although it will still use up energy, it’s also giving back to you in various ways.

But until you get that last child full-time into school, there’s a definite limit on what you can accomplish in your business. And all of us active, compassionate, nurturing parents need to stop feeling guilty that we’re not doing better financially during this difficult time! We need to challenge all these “have it all” gurus and say, quite bluntly, “You’re lying!”

And on that note, I think I’ll go get the porridge soaking for breakfast tomorrow, and the meat marinating for dinner tonight!

My young family in Puerto Vallarta

Filed Under: Be Brilliant Tagged With: Carrie Wilkerson, Frank McKinney, guru, organic cooking, working mom, working mum

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About Jini

Jini Patel Thompson has been doing business online since 1995, when she launched one of the first dating websites on the Internet. Her gut health blog and online health store has been serving customers in over 80 different countries since 2002. Jini loves sharing real-life info on how to launch your own biz, or grow your existing business - using fun, integrity and FLOW.

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  1. B . HEWITT says

    June 13, 2009 at 8:03 am

    Wow, this article really brings me back. Reminds me of the ,um lets just say, {younger|earlier} days and the {problems|troubles} some in the family had. Not to worry though at this age any memory is a good memory I’m told Reply

  2. Leah says

    July 7, 2009 at 11:25 am

    Your babies sound perfect don’t fret over this too much just enjoy that innocence , it goes too fast

    Reply
  3. Police Oral Exam says

    February 2, 2010 at 12:27 pm

    I am currently reading it on my Blackberry and will scan it once I get home. I love your site and marketing strategy.

    Reply

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